How to boost your confidence? In this article I’m going to share 10 tips how you can boost your self confidence. These self-confidence tips will help you feel more confident, improve your self-esteem and give you the capabilities to believe in yourself and handle everything that life throws at you.
What is self confidence or self-esteem?
In a nutshell, self-esteem is your opinion of yourself and your abilities. It can be high, low or somewhere in-between. While everyone occasionally has doubts about themselves, low self-esteem can leave you feeling insecure and unmotivated. They can suffer from some or all of the following:
- Doubting their abilities to do a task or even their whole job well
- Undermining themselves through destructive inner dialogue about their lack of abilities or mistakes they have made
- Constant fear about what others think about you
- Lack of self worth and self esteem
- Rejecting or ignoring positive feedback, believing that the person giving it does not know the whole story as to how incapable they really are!
As you can read yourself, a lack of self confidence is most about a lack of selflove. I you are wondering how to improve your self-esteem, here are some of our top tips that can help you boost yours.
A realistic appraisal of one’s abilities enables people to strike a healthy balance between too little and too much confidence. Too little confidence can as we talked about prevent people from taking risks and seizing opportunities—in school, at work, or in their social life.
Too much confidence can come off as cockiness, arrogance, or narcissism. Overestimating one’s abilities might also lead to problems such as failing to complete projects on time.
Some examples of overconfidence include:
- A person who thinks his sense of direction is much better than it actually is. The person could show his overconfidence by going on a long trip without a map and refusing to ask for directions if he gets lost along the way.
- A person who thinks he is much smarter than he actually is. The person could show his overconfidence by not studying for his SATs, ending up with a lower score than he could otherwise have received.
- A person who thinks he has a photographic memory and a detailed understanding of a subject. The person could show his overconfidence by deciding not to study for a test that he has to take on the subject, thus doing poorly on the test due to lack of preparation.
10 TIPS to become more confident
1. OVERCOME YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
Limiting beliefs are false beliefs that prevent us from pursuing our goals and desires. Limiting beliefs can keep you from doing important things, like applying for your dream job or finding the relationship you want (or leaving the one you don’t want). They can also keep you from doing unimportant things, like cleaning your house or finish that small thing on your work. But by recognizing that beliefs are not set in stone, you give yourself the opportunity to shift them. And in doing so, you open the door to new possibilities. Gladify is all about changing your mindset, with research based exercises.
2. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS
In modern society, it’s nearly impossible to avoid comparing ourselves to others. While it has always been a natural tendency to measure our successes and failures against others, the pervasiveness of social media makes this process ubiquitous. We are constantly bombarded with curated images exposing us to the most enviable and tantalizing qualities of friends and strangers. This type of exposure tricks the brain to focus on what one doesn’t have versus what one does. We compare our worst, or even mundane day-to-day experiences to other’s best, most glamorous moments. Most often we don’t pause to acknowledge the impact of this negative self-bias, and the results can be damaging. We believe our thoughts and feelings about others and feel inferior. The first step to stop comparing yourself to others, is to accept the harmfulness of it.
3.USE GOAL VISUALIZATION
Most negative feelings have their root in fear. When we lack confidence, for example, it is typically because we are afraid that we might lose something — money, reputation, love, power, and even our lives. We fear not being good enough, not being capable enough, or not being deserving. Even people who seem to have it all, are controlled by fear. If you are hesitating about doing something you need to do because you fear what “could happen,” visualization exercises can help you take the next step by bringing the unknown into the familiar.
Think about it this way: The first couple times you tried something that seemed mysterious like riding a bike or swimming it was probably very scary. But after you tried it a few times and enjoyed it, that fear evaporated like fog in sunlight.
As I have discussed many times on our blog, your brain doesn’t KNOW the difference between what you are imagining is happening — and what is occurring in real life. By visualizing yourself taking the action and having a successful outcome, you can calm irrational fears. You may still feel a bit apprehensive — and there is nothing wrong with that. The goal is simply to calm your fears enough so you can take action instead of staying frozen because of fear.
4. LIVE IN THE PRESENT
If you’re not living in the present, you’re living in illusion. That seems to a be a pretty good reason to live in the present, doesn’t it? But how often are we worrying about things that have yet to come, how often do we beat ourselves up for mistakes that we’ve made, no matter how much time has passed? The answer is too much. Not only will living in the present have a dramatic effect on your emotional well-being, but it can also impact your physical health. It’s long been known that the amount of mental stress you carry can have a detrimental impact on your health. If you’re living in the present, you’re living in acceptance. You’re accepting life as it is now, not as how you wish it would have been. When you’re living in acceptance, you realize everything is complete as it is. You can forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made, and you can have peace in your heart knowing that everything that should happen will. With Gladify with teach our users with simple mindfulness exercises to life more in the present.
5. Think positive to overcome your negativity
Understand the benefits of being a positive thinker. Choosing to think more positively will not only help you take control of your life and make your everyday experiences more pleasant, but it can also benefit your mental and physical health as well as your ability to deal with change. Being aware of these benefits can help you be even more motivated to think positively on a regular basis.
Here are some benefits of positive thinking:
- An increased life span
- Lower rates of depression and distress
- Greater resistance to the common cold
- Better mental and physical well-being
- Better coping skills during times of stress
- A more natural ability to form relationships and cement bonds
Gladify is all about creating a positive mindset, we call this a growth mindset.
6. PRACTICE GRATITUDE
There are many benefits to being grateful. Gratitude is good for your psychological well-being, your relationships, and possibly even your physical health. But the truth is that some people have more grateful dispositions than others. For some of us, gratitude just doesn’t come as easy.
Research suggests that these differences may be rooted in our brains, genes, and even our personalities. But if you’re having trouble feeling grateful, don’t despair! Gratitude isn’t purely hard-wired, and—as we’ll explore below—there are things you can do to bring more gratitude into your life, like a totem or a grateful journal. “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”
7. DETERMINE WHAT MATTERS TO YOU
Think about what you want most out of life. What were you created for? What is your mission in life? What is your passion? You were put on this earth for a reason, and knowing that reason will help you determine your priorities. When you know the answers on this questions. Make a plan! Create a plan to get from where you are today to where you want to be. Maybe you need a new job. Maybe you need to go back to school. Maybe you need to deal with some relationship issues. Whatever it is, create a plan that will get you to where you want to be.
8. IMPROVE YOUR SELF-TALK with affirmations
Positive affirmations are beginning to trend, and not just in the self help world. Everyday people are using positive thoughts to change their life for the better. That’s because research is emerging with proof that how you live your life is largely determined by our internal self talk throughout the day. For most of us, unless we have rewritten our subconscious with positive affirmations, negative preprogramming (from when we were a child) replays in our minds.
Research has shown that positive affirmations can have many benefits, such as improved reduced stress and improved health. Affirmations can even help you improve in a variety of life settings. There are many reasons why positive affirmations are important – and if you don’t make a habit of repeating them, they’re easily lost. What we repeatedly focus on expands. Whant to know more about affirmations? Read the follow article. Self Improvement With Daily Affirmations.
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